Single. Just one. On your own. It can be a scary thought. Especially when you feel like couples are all around you. Maybe you are one of those couples and you think staying together unhappy is better than being single. Or dating someone who is lackluster is better than dating no one at all. Happiness and singleness can’t go together, BUT they do.
So you’re single; there is power in being single. Think about it. Your time belongs to you. If you don’t want to go home after work, you don’t have to. If you want to make a last minute decision, you can. If you want to go to dinner with a group of friends, go for it. You make your schedule. You control what you do, who you see, what you spend your money on, and you get to go on all sorts of dates. It either goes well or it doesn’t and now you have a good story. Being single offers you freedom.
Maybe you’re in a relationship with someone you know you’ve got one (or two or three) up on. But being with him seems to make more sense because at least you still have someone to bring when you have that +1 option. You’re probably less than satisfied and leaving your happiness in this dudes control. Sure, getting out means you’ve got to start over somewhere new, but at some point you’re going to have to do it. Why not now before the water gets any deeper?
I had a talk with a friend recently who has been having trouble in her relationship and she felt alone. Being alone on an island by yourself is one thing, but when you feel alone on an island with someone, that is worse. Don’t be afraid of what singleness means, it’s opportunity for growth and your own self discovery.