-Why are Orange and Black Halloween colors? Orange is associated with the Fall harvest and black is the color for death. Those were the first colors I got for rubber bands on my braces in the 3rd grade.
-Jack o’ lanterns started in Ireland. Originally they put candles in turnips to scare away spirits.
-Pumpkins also come in blue, green, and white. I saw one the other day and it looked sickly.
-Tootsie Rolls were the first wrapped penny candy in the US. Now you only get them for less than a penny at OK Cafe.
-Candy sales for Halloween average about 2 billion annually. Right behind it is Christmas. Go figure, I saw red and green M&Ms in the store yesterday.
-Snickers is the #1 candy bar for trick-or-treaters. You work up an appetite running from house to house.
-Think you know a werewolf? Look for a unibrow, hairy palms, tattoos, and a long middle finger.
-There are still vampire clubs with people claiming to be real vampires.
-THe largest pumpkin ever weighing in was 1,446 pounds.
-Samhainophobia is an intense fear of Halloween
-Breast cancer risk increases with age and every woman is at risk.
-Every 13 minutes a woman dies of breast cancer.
-77% of women with breast cancer are over 50.
-The first sign of breast cancer usually shows up on a woman’s mammogram before it can be felt or any other symptoms are present.
-About 2 million women have boob implants…that is a lot of silicon. Average age 34.
-96% of women who find and treat breast cancer early will be cancer-free after five years.
-Over 80% of breast lumps are not cancerous, but benign such as fibrocystic breast disease.
-Oral contraceptives may cause a slight increase in breast cancer risk; however 10 years after discontinuing use of oral contraceptives the risk is the same as for women who never used the pill.
-Men may also be diagnosed with breast cancer
-There is a mamogram machine called “BUCKY” (if you know Bucky Gage, my father, that will make you giggle)
When you look up “nag” in a thesaurus, synonyms include pester, irritate, badger, harass, and that’s only the beginning of a lengthy list of words you don’t want to be described as. Think: the Peanut’s Teacher. And for some reason it’s women who get the reputation for nagging. You can almost see the switch in your partner’s head go off. You’ve hit, what I refer to as his “hot button”. It doesn’t really matter what you’re trying to get across, he’s annoyed and you’ve been shut out. How do you avoid that and still get him to do what you want him to do?
When are you asking? You want your husband to take the trash out; is it right when he sits down after work? Or during the middle of a baseball game? Probably steer clear of these and similar times when he’s focused on relaxing. He’s not thinking about anything else and he’s especially not thinking about what you want him to do.
How are you asking him? “Do this, do this, DO THIS!!!” You’re not going to respond to someone asking you to do something if they have that tone with you, so why would your boyfriend? Try asking once politely and if that’s not working, leaving a little note (that’s not passive aggressive) asking again. It’s just a little reminder that doesn’t get either of you worked up.
Why are you asking him? I’m not saying women are responsible for taking care of all the household chores, but if it’s something you can do and it’s going to be easier than both of you getting upset with one another, just do it. Simple. Lots of stress saved on both ends.
Men are forgetful, gentle nudges are helpful harassing is not. Remember, at the end of the day he’s not doing it to spite you, he’s doing it because he’s a man and they’re hardwired a whole lot different than we are.
I did not sleep in my car or see any famous people this past week. However, I did drive to Arkansas yesterday and saw the World’s Largest Cedar Bucket and a yard filled with bathtubs in between Oxford, MS and Little Rock. Leaves me a realm of possibilities between buckets and bathtubs. I have showered from a bucket before, it’s tricky.
-Showering dates back to the Greeks (such innovators). Obviously they weren’t the modern shower but their vases served the purpose of dumping water.
-Fear of washing and bathing is ablutophobia. I lived with a girl once (unnamed) who may have had that.
-The word “spa” come from the Belgium town of Spa where a mineral spring was discovered.
-The first tubs in the home were found in the kitchen. Some people thought they were useless so they turned them into planters. The idea can work well since there is a drain.
-A typical shower of 10 minutes uses 50 gallons of water.
-Boys take note. Spreading your shower liner out after each shower prevents mildew from growing.
-William Taft (past president) got his 300 pound body stuck in his bathtub on his Inauguration Day. His attendants had to come get him out. And then that made history.
-If you’re in a grumpy mood shower pressure and temperature is believed to release certain endorphins.
-Want to save water? You can use shower water to flush your toilet and water your plants.
One of my favorite things to do is clean out my closet. Get rid of the old to make room for the new. It can be sad. It took me some time to finally get rid of my old college t-shirts because of the memories we shared together. One from a formal, a couple from date nights, a few from those “special” boys who lent me their shirt (and I interpreted the “lending” to mean “keep forever”). Then those old ratty jeans–you know where each hole and rip came from and they have sentimental meaning. The thought of getting rid of them hurts your insides because it’s saying goodbye to part of your story. Like our closets, we can hold onto too much of relationships if we don’t purge, and if we don’t purge it doesn’t allow us to move forward.
Like the idea of getting rid of that nasty hat you’ve worn since you were in 9th grade, you need to start the purge. Keeping those old connections allows you to have that link to the piece of your life that may be preventing you from moving forward onto new and better things. How do you begin the process?
**FYI this part won’t be easy and will make you feel like you are betraying someone.
- No reason for that phone number. Delete it.
- Why do you need to read back over your old text messages? Erase them.
- If Facebook or Instagram is a temptation either block them or get off. If getting on their account is a problem, tell someone so they can hold you accountable. You’ve crossed over to crazy (you probably know that already but don’t want to admit it to yourself.)
- Any of their belongings—either toss them or put them in a box and have the person come and retrieve them when you aren’t home or get someone to deliver it to them.
- Those little urges you get to make contact with that person because something makes you think of them—ignore them. Tie your hands behind your back.
The list can go on and on, but my point in giving you a starting place is because as long as you’re holding on to some part of that person and the “what ifs” is preventing you from moving forward and on to something new and great. Let go and be.
Summer is almost over and I am about to lose my chance of writing about ice cream while it’s still hot outside (but let’s be serious, it’s just raining). Ice cream, let’s do it.
There is nothing like looking at yourself butt naked in front of a full length mirror. You start picking things apart immediately. Your legs are lumpy. You’re saggy in strange places. Hair has left some places and relocated in other places. It’s like the scene in Mean Girls when the 4 main characters are sitting in front of the mirror scrutinizing every little thing about themselves, “God. My hips are huge! Oh please. I hate my calves. At least you guys can wear halters. I’ve got man shoulders. My hairline is so weird. My pores are huge. My nail beds suck.” And if we’re honest, we scrutinize ourselves in similar ways. In a culture saturated with images telling us how we are supposed to look, no wonder we suffer from negative body images—men and women both.
While there is no magic potion for a flawless figure, there are things we can do to help improve the way we see ourselves.
- What are your triggers? Is it looking in mirrors? Wearing clothes that grab you in your soft spots? Eating in front of people? Looking at the magazine covers in line at the grocery? Whatever it might be, figure it out, and do your best not to engage in the activities that make you feel worse about your body image.
- Do something! Get up an exercise. A better body isn’t going to come from sitting around and playing on Facebook or playing on your Xbox. It doesn’t matter how fast you run or how much you can lift, all that matters is that you are moving.
- Pay attention to what you eat. Cheeseburgers do taste really good, especially when paired with some greasy fries, but usually after I eat that I need to go home and put sweatpants on, and I’m also pretty sure I can see where it all ends up. It’s okay to eat like that sometimes, but it doesn’t do your body good to make that a regular habit.
These are pretty simple things anyone can do to help improve their body image, but if you find that the problem may be more than these suggestions, you may want to look into getting individual help.
Two nights ago I went to eat with my parents and sister, Cooper. My dad ordered calamari and when they came out, they were pretty large. Somehow through that I was able to convince Cooper that Dad must be eating the giant squid that was found off the coast of Georgia by Tybee Island. Every word out of my mouth was a lie, and she fell for it immediately. In the car on the way home I told her none of it was true, but made me think that squids have never been covered in my weekly research.
-Squids have beaks instead of teeth. I got beaked by a squid in high school when we caught one on our Marine Biology trip.
-The largest squid ever brought in was in Thimble Tickle Bay, Newfoundland and it was 55 feet long weighing 2 tons. Forget the size, the place is called Thimble Tickle Bay.
-Squids have 8 arms. The male has a shorter arm to plant his manly sperm into the female. A lesson in squid reproduction.
-Giant squids eyeballs are the size of basketballs. That’s bigger than my head.
-The ink squids squirt is called sepia
-The Sperm Whale is said to be the only natural enemy of the Giant Squid.
-Along with the Giant Squid there is also a kind called the Colossal Squid which is heavier but shorter than its’ cousin.
-What I think–if we went swimming with a giant squid it would eat us.
If saying “NO” is not an easy thing for you to do, join the club. It’s like we are wired from the beginning to say “YES” to everything. It’s the polite thing to do, right? So, once we start doing that from the get-go it’s a habit and then by the time you’re in your mid-twenties and you are overcommitted and can’t figure out how that happened. I feel like I could be the president of the club most days. And I’ve improved. You don’t want to let anyone down and they need you. Well, who is the affecting more, them or you? My guess would be you because you’ve taken on more than you can chew and it very well could be affecting your other relationships. Your boss asked you to take on another huge project that keeps you after work late, which consequently prevents you from getting home to your spouse or family. Who is taking the hit? How can you confidently say no and not forsake losing your job, friends, family, or peace of mind?
First, check out the book “Boundaries” by Henry Cloud (he’s got books on all sorts of boundaries for all sorts of relationships). He covers everything you need to know to protect yourself while still keeping friends. I recommend it to 90% of the people who walk in my door. We all need it.
Practice saying no. Say it to yourself in the mirror. Say it to your dog. Tell your cat no. Do not be afraid of the word no. You can say it politely, “Thank you for the offer but…”, “How about we revisit this next week…”, “No, I don’t think that’s a very good idea…” No is in the language for a reason. If you give in and you don’t want to, that will lead you to resentment.
Reverse the roles. So, Sally wants to go to drinks and you’ve already committed to Donald to go to dinner. No need to overbook yourself. You might be worried Sally will never ask you to drinks again or her feelings will be hurt. Change the scenario. You ask Sally for drinks, Sally says, “I wish I could, but I already have plans to eat with Donald tonight.” Easy. You understand, so Sally will understand as well. I am sure you make great company, but your friend will be okay if you can’t make it to everything they ask you to.
Does it make you happy? If all of the running around and pleasing other people is exhausting and you find yourself more annoyed than enjoying what you’ve agreed to, take a time out. Do something for yourself. Turn your phone off. Go to a movie alone. Do something you want to do because you want to do it. Not because someone has asked you to or you’re expected to. You can’t always be the volunteer that chairs every event your local college chapter has, the classroom parent who plans all the holiday parties, or the go-to man in your office that gets all the projects. You will burn out.
Remember, NO is not a bad word.